Matters Arising on Speaking with Fellow African Women – the Childless Couple/Woman

MAWA Women and Girls, here is something we are all guilty of in our communities. It is true that we, Africans. place a high value on children. However, that does not excuse how we hound women who do not have children to the point of destroying marriages where the couple has not had a child in a year or two, immediately assuming that the woman is the infertile one. And if the poor woman is infertile, we all know our community immediately starts insulting her, calling her “a man” and treating her as though she should not even be alive. Can we please, stop this behavior? Take a look at the article below and add to that:
1) Do not even ask the woman about when “the babies will start coming”. Remember that is foremost in her mind and if she is not yet expecting a baby, she and her husband probably do not want to do so right away or she may not yet be pregnant and is already very worried about it. You’re not helping and if she wants your help, she will tell you.
2) In-laws, stop harassing your brother/cousin/family member’s wife. Take a step back and leave the two of them to deal with their family issues. It is horrifying what African women suffer from their in-laws and it is incredible that after experiencing such pain, we the women also continue inflicting it on other women. Please, let us show how aware/educated we are by stopping certain behaviors.

Click link below to see more on this issue:23 Things You Should Never Say To A Childfree Woman | HuffPost Women